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Essential Male Psychology to Help You Find Happiness

Not all of us will be fortunate enough to be celebrating this Valentine’s Day with the love our life. To help you find happieness for next Valentine’s Day our very own Board Certified Couple Therapy Professional Psychologist, Dr. Joel Block, explains an essential aspect of male psychology.

Will I find happiness?

You’ve been hurt, dumped and duped and you’ve bounced back. You’re still in the game. Then you meet him. He’s a keeper, at least that’s your dream.

Ah, yes, close your eyes and let the fantasy play out on the movie screen in your head. Soft Sunday mornings with fresh squeezed orange juice. Romantic walks among colorful foliage in the fall, blossoms in the spring. Intimate dinners and nights lying in each other’s arms.

There will be no need to speak; you’ll know each other’s thoughts and be comforted by them. He’ll be your strength, your joy and your safety net. You’ll be his lover, his best friend, and his anchor in life. You’ll even get each other’s jokes.
Sigh. Sounds great, doesn’t it?

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5 Questions To Ask Before You Move In Together

First comes love,
Then comes marriage,
Then comes Jenny with the baby carriage!

Remember that childhood chant? Chances are you jumped rope to it at some point during recess, only it was your name linked with the baby carriage. You probably didn’t know it then, but your little-girl games were subconsciously reinforcing the way you would one day assume a relationship was supposed to happen. Or, at least, how it used to happen.

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Deciding to get married: a man’s perspective

You’ve been on the dating circuit longer than you’re ready to admit and you’ve found lots of interested men, but sex is their interest, not settling down. You’re understandably discouraged. You certainly want relationship compatibility, but first he has to be available to go the distance, you’re done with the sprinter circuit. You’d love some encouraging news.

Wait no more! In the good news department are the National Marriage Project studies to guide you. Deciding to get married can be a big decision and  there are a myriad of reasons why a man might be commitment-phobic, but the studies also confirm that most men do eventually get married.

Here is some research that may make your day and more importantly, put some science in your search:

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Our 4 Key Relationship Factors

We’ve discussed the strategy behind our psychology assessment, now, we have all four relationship factors broken down to help you understand our test even better! This way, you feel knowledgeable about our test kit and go into it fully prepared, no surprises.

Remember, these four relationship factors have been tested in correlation to marital satisfaction and long term relationship success. This part of our compatibility test is a questionnaire built to help you and your partner better understand your psychological compatibility.

1. Social Behavior

The social interaction pattern assesses whether you seek out togetherness or prefer solitude, whether you prefer to be in the background or foreground of social interaction. In essence, are you most comfortable among people, or do you prefer your own company?

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Instant Chemistry’s Psychological Compatibility Test

Curious about our psychological compatibility test? Here I explain the history of the test and how it was put together.

Choosing What to Measure

You are looking for a solid relationship and you are considering using a compatible match application. Understandably, you have some questions. The first question is, how does a psychologist choose what factors to assess to make informed predictions? In the development of tests, professional judgment guides the decision regarding which forms of evidence are most necessary and feasible. The basis for the decision is the intended use of the test.

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The Psychology of Relationship Compatibility

When you think of relationship compatibility, you might recall your loving grandparents, they were each other’s missing puzzle pieces. But when you look for a similar partnership in the world of singles, are you searching for instant gratification or long term success?

 

Searching for The One

Ah, if only it were so easy.

Finding that match, a life partner with lasting love, can be quite elusive. Maybe you are you in or contemplating a serious relationship but wondering whether you are really compatible?

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Confessions of a Believer in Relationship Compatibility

Putting the Love Puzzle Together

Maybe it was around the time my mother’s third marriage ended that I became interested in the nature of love relationships, what made them prosper and what made them sink like the Titanic, taking down all but a very few survivors. At the time, in an immigrant section of Brooklyn, no one got divorced; the word had barely made it into the everyday lexicon.

Years later, with relationship issues practically making the headlines daily, figuring out what makes them work and what contributes to their demise is still a big assignment. It is no surprise that a few decades later, as a psychologist specializing in relationship compatibility, I still have questions and I continue to be intrigued by the intricacies and complexities of this thing called love.

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Psychology Test Meets Modern Day Matchmaking

You’ve met someone and there’s an initial attraction. Your date is not a loser, not a bad person, not a psycho, or a user. Whew, all the run-don’t-walk-away signs are absent.

You’ve taken endless compatibility and psychology tests but the dejavu is ringing true again.  You’ve practically worn down the path of great beginnings. It starts off well and then there are those private thoughts that start creeping in: Really? I don’t like that at all! That makes me uncomfortable. I’m not sure that would work for me. It’s not the fit I thought it was…

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