When we think about marriage, a lot of us think about falling madly in love and living the rest of our life in bliss. Or some of us might churn at the idea believing that marriage is the worst thing for a relationship. But there is another way to see marriage. Because marriage is supposed to be about love many do not consider that there is a large economic benefit to marriage. Indeed, it can be argued that marriage is so common simply because it’s beneficial economically and has nothing to do with love. To put it simply, marriage offers many benefits to both the man and woman that are hard to ignore. These benefits include: lowered cost of living; a support system for difficult or unforeseen situations; and sharing the workload.
It’s that time of year again. That time when we rack our brains to come up with the perfect gift for friends and family. Some of us dread it, some of us even loathe it, but yet some of us absolutely love it. There are people who might even say that gifting is a science. While scientists have yet to find the ‘gifting gene’, they have uncovered a connection between our genes and generosity.
Two key hormones that play a key role in our social behavior are vasopressin and oxytocin, also sometimes referred to as the ‘love drug’. In controlled lab settings, volunteers given doses of oxytocin were found to be more sociable.
We’ve discussed the strategy behind our psychology assessment, now, we have all four relationship factors broken down to help you understand our test even better! This way, you feel knowledgeable about our test kit and go into it fully prepared, no surprises.
Remember, these four relationship factors have been tested in correlation to marital satisfaction and long term relationship success. This part of our compatibility test is a questionnaire built to help you and your partner better understand your psychological compatibility.
1. Social Behavior
The social interaction pattern assesses whether you seek out togetherness or prefer solitude, whether you prefer to be in the background or foreground of social interaction. In essence, are you most comfortable among people, or do you prefer your own company?
Curious about our psychological compatibility test? Here I explain the history of the test and how it was put together.
Choosing What to Measure
You are looking for a solid relationship and you are considering using a compatible match application. Understandably, you have some questions. The first question is, how does a psychologist choose what factors to assess to make informed predictions? In the development of tests, professional judgment guides the decision regarding which forms of evidence are most necessary and feasible. The basis for the decision is the intended use of the test.
Congratulations! You’ve taken your first Instant Chemistry compatibility test. Trying to digest what everything means? We’ve written a guide for you to better understand what your test results say about you and your relationship.
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Your personal results will give you two pieces of genetic information and a psychological assessment. As a couple, you will both receive a compatibility score too.
When you were a kid, did you ever have spitting competitions? I know I did. I wanted to spit just like they did in the movies or in the dugout of the major leagues. I knew though, I would get a serious scolding if my mom caught me. It’s bad manners to spit.
But now I have a good excuse to do just that and it’s in the name of DNA. A home DNA test can sound intimidating but it’s as easy as fulfilling that childhood dream of spitting like you belong in the major leagues. Let me explain how it works.
When you think of relationship compatibility, you might recall your loving grandparents, they were each other’s missing puzzle pieces. But when you look for a similar partnership in the world of singles, are you searching for instant gratification or long term success?
Searching for The One
Ah, if only it were so easy.
Finding that match, a life partner with lasting love, can be quite elusive. Maybe you are you in or contemplating a serious relationship but wondering whether you are really compatible?
Putting the Love Puzzle Together
Maybe it was around the time my mother’s third marriage ended that I became interested in the nature of love relationships, what made them prosper and what made them sink like the Titanic, taking down all but a very few survivors. At the time, in an immigrant section of Brooklyn, no one got divorced; the word had barely made it into the everyday lexicon.
Years later, with relationship issues practically making the headlines daily, figuring out what makes them work and what contributes to their demise is still a big assignment. It is no surprise that a few decades later, as a psychologist specializing in relationship compatibility, I still have questions and I continue to be intrigued by the intricacies and complexities of this thing called love.
With the rise of social media and hundreds of cool new social, mobile dating apps, relationships are constantly put to the test. In order for your relationship to survive in this modern day world, you need to have a strong foundation. It’s important for couples to understand and appreciate the dynamics of their relationship in order to appreciate its value and whether to make an investment into its success. A big reason for relationship breakdown is a lack of understanding and communication between couples.
It is well known that genes are an important part of who we are, but did you know that genes also play an important role in our relationships?
We know that genes influence our behaviour and in fact, a whole area of science is dedicated to understanding this – behavioural genetics. But perhaps less well known, is that genes also affect how we look for a relationship and how compatible we are with that person.
The Sweaty T-Shirt Study
About 20 years ago, a ground-breaking research study was conducted out of Bern University, Switzerland by Professor Claus Wedekind. Today it is fondly referred to as the “sweaty T-shirt study”.