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Essential Male Psychology to Help You Find Happiness

Not all of us will be fortunate enough to be celebrating this Valentine’s Day with the love our life. To help you find happieness for next Valentine’s Day our very own Board Certified Couple Therapy Professional Psychologist, Dr. Joel Block, explains an essential aspect of male psychology.

Will I find happiness?

You’ve been hurt, dumped and duped and you’ve bounced back. You’re still in the game. Then you meet him. He’s a keeper, at least that’s your dream.

Ah, yes, close your eyes and let the fantasy play out on the movie screen in your head. Soft Sunday mornings with fresh squeezed orange juice. Romantic walks among colorful foliage in the fall, blossoms in the spring. Intimate dinners and nights lying in each other’s arms.

There will be no need to speak; you’ll know each other’s thoughts and be comforted by them. He’ll be your strength, your joy and your safety net. You’ll be his lover, his best friend, and his anchor in life. You’ll even get each other’s jokes.
Sigh. Sounds great, doesn’t it?

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5 Questions To Ask Before You Move In Together

First comes love,
Then comes marriage,
Then comes Jenny with the baby carriage!

Remember that childhood chant? Chances are you jumped rope to it at some point during recess, only it was your name linked with the baby carriage. You probably didn’t know it then, but your little-girl games were subconsciously reinforcing the way you would one day assume a relationship was supposed to happen. Or, at least, how it used to happen.

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Does your perfume smell like you? The Scent of Human Attraction.

For years scientists have tried to uncover the mystery of human attraction. While there is still mystery, one important part of human attraction has been discovered and it resides in our genes. Two people with different immunity genes find each other more irresistible than two people with the same immunity genes. This even happens in animals like mice and fish. They do this by using their highly sensitive nose to figure out if a potential mate has similar of different immunity genes than themselves.

But if our sense of smell is not as sensitive as a fish or mouse is smell really part of human attraction?

Turns out it is!

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What’s in your love manual?

Recently, Instant Chemistry released our love manual which accompanies a client’s genetic and psychological results.  It’s a really in-depth booklet, meant to turn your DNA result into a meaningful and useful tool to strengthen your relationship and help it grow.  But what does it include?  Here we show you what to expect when you receive your very own love manual.

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Deciding to get married: a man’s perspective

You’ve been on the dating circuit longer than you’re ready to admit and you’ve found lots of interested men, but sex is their interest, not settling down. You’re understandably discouraged. You certainly want relationship compatibility, but first he has to be available to go the distance, you’re done with the sprinter circuit. You’d love some encouraging news.

Wait no more! In the good news department are the National Marriage Project studies to guide you. Deciding to get married can be a big decision and  there are a myriad of reasons why a man might be commitment-phobic, but the studies also confirm that most men do eventually get married.

Here is some research that may make your day and more importantly, put some science in your search:

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DNA Dating: Why I got my relationship compatibility tested for Valentine’s Day.

This articlce was originally posted by Jelena Djurkic on MaRS news blog here.

The wedding is still on.

Last year, I got engaged to my boyfriend of seven years. Last week, I took a DNA test to see just how genetically compatible we are.

Toronto biotech startup Instant Chemistry offers genetic testing that can help determine relationship compatibility with a potential partner. Originally designed to help singles narrow down prospective matches, the company has also found success with young couples looking to test their genetic fit.

With more people turning to their laptops and apps to find love—25% of Canadians have tried online dating—codifying attraction at a glance based on gender, location, sexual preference, religion and so on is becoming the norm. So why not add genetics into the mix?

In honour of Valentine’s Day, I decided to give Instant Chemistry a try with my fiancé. What did our results reveal?

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The economics of marriage: to have and to hold expenses

When we think about marriage, a lot of us think about falling madly in love and living the rest of our life in bliss.  Or some of us might churn at the idea believing that marriage is the worst thing for a relationship.  But there is another way to see marriage.  Because marriage is supposed to be about love many do not consider that there is a large economic benefit to marriage. Indeed, it can be argued that marriage is so common simply because it’s beneficial economically and has nothing to do with love. To put it simply, marriage offers many benefits to both the man and woman that are hard to ignore. These benefits include: lowered cost of living; a support system for difficult or unforeseen situations; and sharing the workload.

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Our 4 Key Relationship Factors

We’ve discussed the strategy behind our psychology assessment, now, we have all four relationship factors broken down to help you understand our test even better! This way, you feel knowledgeable about our test kit and go into it fully prepared, no surprises.

Remember, these four relationship factors have been tested in correlation to marital satisfaction and long term relationship success. This part of our compatibility test is a questionnaire built to help you and your partner better understand your psychological compatibility.

1. Social Behavior

The social interaction pattern assesses whether you seek out togetherness or prefer solitude, whether you prefer to be in the background or foreground of social interaction. In essence, are you most comfortable among people, or do you prefer your own company?

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Instant Chemistry’s Psychological Compatibility Test

Curious about our psychological compatibility test? Here I explain the history of the test and how it was put together.

Choosing What to Measure

You are looking for a solid relationship and you are considering using a compatible match application. Understandably, you have some questions. The first question is, how does a psychologist choose what factors to assess to make informed predictions? In the development of tests, professional judgment guides the decision regarding which forms of evidence are most necessary and feasible. The basis for the decision is the intended use of the test.

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The Psychology of Relationship Compatibility

When you think of relationship compatibility, you might recall your loving grandparents, they were each other’s missing puzzle pieces. But when you look for a similar partnership in the world of singles, are you searching for instant gratification or long term success?

 

Searching for The One

Ah, if only it were so easy.

Finding that match, a life partner with lasting love, can be quite elusive. Maybe you are you in or contemplating a serious relationship but wondering whether you are really compatible?

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